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Parents all know that children make it harder to do some of the most enjoyable adult things. Bluntly put, kids can get between you。
These days, every time another industry starts to suffer or a long-held tradition begins to decline, the change is blamed on millennials.
George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin seen during their civil wedding in Venice, Italy in 2014. At the time Clooney was 53 and Alamuddin was
Now scientists have attached some numbers to the situation。
Millennials have been blamed for killing everything from home ownership to casual dining restaurants to golf, but now they're getting credit for 'killing' something that's generally considered a bad thing, anyway: divorce.
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Age doesn't matter. Or does it? Researchers often study how age affects a host of issues, and some of their findings might surprise you. Here are some examples.
An eight-year study of 218 couples found 90 percent experienced a decrease in marital satisfaction once the first child was born。
And they're certainly gloating. Twitter users have reacted to the news with glee, sharing funny, tongue-in-cheek tweets about millennials' role in plummeting divorce rates.
The number of people tying the knot hit a record low of 257,700 in 2018, marking the seventh-straight year of decline.
While the government talks up family values, marriage break-ups are soaring.
Best Age to Get Married
Don't want to ever get divorced, or at least not during your first five years of marriage? Then the best age to tie the knot is between 28 and 32, according to a study published by the Institute of Family Studies. In the past, sociologists said the longer you waited to marry, the more likely you are to stay wed. But this study showed couples are more likely to divorce if they marry for the first time in their late 30s or early 40s (the survey did not include participants over 45). The researcher theorized one reason for this may be that people who married later in life were simply not be the kind that did well in marriages.
"Couples who do not have children also show diminished marital quality over time," says Scott Stanley, research professor of psychology at University of Denver. "However, having a baby accelerates the deterioration, especially seen during periods of adjustment right after the birth of a child."
New research shows that the US divorce rate dropped 18 percent from 2008 to 2016.
▲ Korea fertility rate hits record 0.98 low (via sbs.com.au)
【1】Divorce rates are rising quickly across China. This is a remarkable transformation in a society where for centuries marriage was universal and mostly permanent (though convention permitted men to take concubines). The trend reflects profound economic and social change. In the past 35 years, the biggest internal migration experienced by any country in human history has been tearing families apart. Traditional values have been giving way to more liberal ones. Women are becoming better educated, and more aware of their marital rights (they now initiate over half of all divorce cases). Greater affluence has made it easier for many people to contemplate living alone—no longer is there such an incentive to stay married in order to pool resources.
Best Age to Have Children
An unrelated study in 2006 of 13,000 people found parents are more depressed than non-parents. Scientists speculate that the problem is partly a modern one, because parents don't get as much help at home as they did in previous generations。
And according to analysis of US Census data by University of Maryland sociology professor Philip Cohen, that's all thanks to millennials, as well as younger members of Generation X.
Each year, the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare tallies the number of marriages that took place in Japan between January and October. In 2017, approximately 607,000 couples tied the knot during that period, which was roughly 13,000 less than the same time frame in
[例句]Bob can really talk up a storm.
If you ask the average American at what age it is best to start having kids, the majority will say 25 or younger for women, and 26 or younger for men, according to a Gallup poll. (The most popular ages were 25 for women and 27 for men.) But if you're speaking, biologically, the best age to have kids is actually the late teens or early 20s. That's when women's eggs are freshest and their bodies healthiest. Women in this age group also have the lowest rates of miscarriage, stillbirth and infertility.
- This was the fifth straight annual decline, and the lowest number of people getting married since the end of World War II.
There are key variables to note in the new study。
According to the Pew Research Center, millennials are those who were born between 1981 and 1996, making them 22 to 37 years old.
Best Age to Peak at Sports
▲ Fewer Japanese people got married last year than any time since the end of World War II (via japantoday.com)
One study showed peak performance for swimming was 21 years old and 26 for track and field. But for chess, a much less physical activity, the age for peak performance was 31.4.
Couples who lived together before marriage experienced more problems after the birth of a child than those who lived separately before marriage, as did those whose parents fought or divorced。
Cohen explained that millennials are waiting longer than Baby Boomers to tie the knot, and as such, have become less likely to divorce.
[例句]His concubine, mistress chen, was visiting with her old mother.
2018年2月英国发布的一份数据显示该国异性结婚率已是历史最低水平（an all-time low）。
Best Age for Happiness
However, some couples said their relationships were stronger post-birth. They tended to have been married longer or had higher incomes。
When the new data was published earlier this week, social media users found the news promising — but also particularly funny, in light of the trend of blaming millennials for industries that have died off.
That can vary depending how you look at the data. Cross-sectional studies comparing adults in differing age groups showed people most enjoyed their late teens and early adulthood. But longitudinal studies when scientists studied the same group of people over time, showed the happiest folks were between 60 and 69. Another study of 28,000 people found that happiness increased 5 percent with every 10 years of aging.
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Children don't ruin everything, Stanley points out。
'Typical millennials, ruining another sacred institution with their avocado toasts and commitment to stable relationships,' quipped NBC News reporter Alex Seitz-Wald.
[例句]Pockets of affluence coexist with poverty
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Today an unprecedented portion of millennials will remain unmarried through age 40, a recent Urban Institute report predicted.
Social Security payments in the U.S. are reduced if you start taking them before your full retirement age, so that's not a good idea. Currently the full retirement age is 65 for those born in 1937 and earlier, 66 for those born from 1943 to 1959 and 67 for those born in
"There are different types of happiness in life and that while some luster may be off marital happiness for at least a time during this period of life, there is a whole dimension of family happiness and contentment based on the family that couples are building," he said. "This type of happiness can be powerful and positive but it has not been the focus of research."
'God damn millennials are ruining divorce!' tweeted Sarah Shower.
- But financial planning experts say in general it's best not to start taking Social Security payments even when you're eligible, as the benefit amount increases 8 percent every year that you delay, up until age 70.
[例句]For a time he contemplated a career as an army medical doctor
'Millennials are ruining divorce??? What's next? Poverty? Stigmatized mental health issues?? Racism!??? This is a slippery slope people,' added another user sarcastically.
According to a report released last month by the Pew Research Center, 25 percent of millennials are likely to never be married.
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'Little shocking that bloomberg didn’t phrase this as like “millennials are ruining divorce lawyers’ retirement plans” or some s***' tweeted someone else.
▲ NowUKnow: Why Millennials Refuse to Get Married (via Bentley University)
【2】As long as both sides agree on terms, China is now among the easiest and cheapest places in the world to get a divorce. In many Western countries, including Britain, couples must separate for a period before dissolving a marriage; China has no such constraints. In 2014, the latest year for which such data exist, about 3.6m couples split up—more than double the number a decade earlier (they received a red certificate, pictured, to prove it). The divorce rate—the number of cases per thousand people—also doubled in that period. It now stands at 2.7, well above the rate in most of Europe and approaching that of America, the most divorce-prone Western country. Chongqing's rate, 4.4, is higher than America's.
According to Professor Cohen, the shrinking divorce rate is due in large part to younger people waiting longer to get married in the first place.
[例句]Their decision to abandon the trip was made because of financial constraints
By the time many say 'I do' these days, they've already gotten their education, careers, and finances in order.
Young adults today have low marriage rates, and economic security may play an important role in their likelihood to marry.
Comedian Matt Fernandez quipped: 'New data shows that millennials are lowering the divorce rate because they're waiting until they're financially stable to get married. So I did the math, and that means I should be ready for marriage when I'm 400 years old.'
Specifically, full-time employment, median annual wages for all types of workers, and owning a home were associated with higher marriage rates.
Waiting longer means millennials are being choosier, too, dating more and longer before settling on a lifelong partner.
[例句]For all her experience, she was still prone to nerves.
At the same time, the poverty status of women, high housing costs, and living in the home of a parent were associated with lower marriage rates across counties.
'Unlike their parents, millennials aren’t marrying the first Tom, Dick, or Sherry that comes around,' joked one young woman from Chicago.
［3］Helped by the huge movement of people from the countryside into cities, and the rapid spread of social media, the availability of potential mates has grown with astonishing speed, both geographically and virtually. But many migrants marry in their home villages and often live apart from their spouses for lengthy periods. This has contributed to a big increase in extra maritalliaisons. Married people previously had limited opportunities to meet members of the opposite sex in social situations, according to research by Li Xiaomin of Henan University. Peng Xiaobo, a divorce lawyer in Chongqing, reckons 60-70% of his clients have had affairs.
Evidence suggests other reasons for the change, too, including that many young couples are putting off marriage in favor of simply cohabitating long term.
The findings suggest that the economic characteristics of both men and women matter to marriage among young adults today.
Explained the?Wall Street Journal's Christopher Mims, 'Good news: Millennials are much less likely to get divorced. Bad news: Because marriage is becoming less common and the privilege of the well-off, who were always less likely to divorce anyway.'
▲ For Young Adults, Economic Security Matters for Marriage (via census.gov)
[例句]Virtually all cooking was done over coal-fired ranges.
And for some, it seems, the option to divorce is in itself too costly.
Although people say they marry for love, the economic pressures on the millennial generation appear to weigh on their ability -- or willingness -- to get hitched, the Census found last year.
'People are surprised that millennials are forcing the divorce rate to plummet like we can financially afford to build a life up together with someone else,' wrote one person on Twitter. 'LOL sorry you said till death and we have loans and a shared Netflix.'
▲ How marriage became a status symbol for millennials (via cbsnews)
Cohen told DailyMail.com that another reason for the decline in divorce is that Americans 'don’t feel pressured to marry before they have sex, have children or live together.'
［4］Such behavior has led to much soul-searching. The notion that “chopsticks come in pairs” is still prevalent; Propaganda posters preach Confucian-style family virtues using pictures of happy, multi-generation families. Many commentators in the official media talk of separation as a sign of moral failure; they fret that it signifies the decline of marriage, and of family as a social unit—a threat, as they see it, to social stability and even a cause of crime. The spread of “Western values” is often blamed.
The median age for marriage in 1968 was 23 for men and 21 for women, but by 2017 those numbers shifted to age 30 for men and 27 for women, according to Pew Research Center.
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As divorce rates have declined for younger people, they have increased among people in their 60s and 70s. The divorce rate doubled among Americans age 55-64 from 1990-2015, and tripled among those age 65 and older during the same period, according to Bowling Green State University's National Center for Family and Marriage Research.
[例句]The Front adopted an aggressive propaganda campaign against its rivals.
At the same time, many low-income and under-educated Americans are choosing not to marry at all, instead opting to live together and in many cases raise children together.
In fact, a quarter of parents who live with their children are unmarried, according to Pew Research Center.
[例句]A. M. Babu is a commentator on African affairs.
The rate of unmarried parents has steadily grown since 1968, when only 7 percent were unmarried. By 1987 that rose to 16 percent, and by 1997 it grew to 23 percent. The 2017 data - 25 percent - is the most recent available.
People like to say that being single is better than being in a bad relationship. But for me, it is also better than being in a good one. Single life is my most meaningful life.
Single life just feels right to me. I don’t fear loneliness; instead I savor the solitude of my life. Every day, when I wake up in a place of my own with no one else there, I can hardly believe my great fortune. I can pursue the work I care about passionately. I can see friends or spend days at a time on my own, walking the spectacular bluffs near my home, browsing the farmers markets and preparing fresh and flavorful meals from their offerings.
[例句]The contrasting approaches to Europe signified a sharp difference between the major parties
▲ I’m better off single. You might be, too. (viaWashington Post)
［5］But marriage is not losing its lustra. In most countries, rising divorce rates coincide with more births out of wedlock and a fall in marriage rates. China bucks both these trends. Remarriage is common too. The Chinese have not fallen out of love with marriage—only with each other.
People like me who have chosen single life face odd pockets of resistance. Some people refuse to believe we exist. Some insist that we are not “really” happy – we just tell ourselves that we are.
lustra：（古罗马每五年人口普查后举行的）驱邪仪式，（古罗马的）人口普查，五年时间(lustrum的复数)，（古罗马每五年人口普查后举行的）驱邪仪式，（古罗马的）人口普查，五年时间( lustrum的名词复数 )
Happy single people are a threat to a cherished worldview promising that, if you get married and stay that way, all of your dreams will come true. You will be happier and healthier, and probably morally superior, too. From that perspective, living single is sad. But it isn’t.
[例句]Children born out of wedlock enjoy the same right of inheritance as children born in lawful wedlock.
And neither is getting married. What is truly sad is living the life you think you should live, rather than the one that suits you best.
▲ I’m better off single. You might be, too. (via Washington Post)
［6］It is tradition itself that is partly to blame for rising divorce rates. China's legal marriage age for men, 22, is the highest in the world. But conservative attitudes to premarital relationships result in Chinese youths having fewer of them than their counterparts in the West (they are urged to concentrate on their studies and careers, rather than socialize or explore). Living together before marriage is still rare, although that is changing among educated youngsters. People still face social pressure to marry in their 20s. Their inexperience makes it more than usually difficult for them to select a good partner.
资料：Washington Post, cbsnews, census.gov, japantoday, sbs.com.au, Bentley University
[例句]I rejected the teaching that premarital sex was immoral.
［7］Couples' ageing relatives are part of the problem too. Yan Yunxiang of the University of California, Los Angeles, says “parent-driven divorce” is becoming more common. As a result of China's one-child-per-couple policy (recently changed to a two-child one), many people have no siblings to share the burden of looking after parents and grandparents. Thus couples often find themselves living with, or being watched over by, several—often contending—elders. Mr Yan says the older ones' interference fuels conjugal conflict. Sometimes parents urge their children to divorce their partners as a way to deal with rifts.
[例句]His siblings are mostly in their early twenties
[例句]The gens attempted to uproot the entire conjugal system of the period by its direct action.
［8］Women are more likely to be the ones who suffer financially when this happens. Rising divorce rates reflect the spread of more tolerant, permissive values towards women, but legislation tends to favour men in divorce settlements. A legal interpretation issued in 2003 says that if a divorce is disputed, property bought for one partner by a spouse's parents before marriage can revert to the partner alone. That usually means the husband's family: they often try to increase their child's ability to attract a mate by buying him a home.
settlements：结算; 解决( settlement的名词复数 ); <律>金钱或财产的转让（契约）
[例句]He urged employers and trade unions to adapt their pay settlements to the economic circumstances.
［9］In 2011 the Supreme Court went further. It ruled that in contested cases (as about one-fifth of divorces are), the property would be considered that of one partner alone if that partner's parents had bought it for him or her after the couple had got married. In addition, if one partner (rather than his or her parents) had bought a home before the couple wed, that person could be awarded sole ownership by a divorce court. This ruling has put women at a disadvantage too: by convention they are less often named on deeds.
[例句]His heroic deeds were celebrated in every corner of India.
［10］In practice, if the couple has children the person with custody often keeps the home—more often the mother. Yet the court's interpretation sets a worrying precedent for divorced women. Their difficulties may be compounded by the two-child policy, which came into effect on January 1st. If couples have two children and both partners want custody, judges often assign parents one child each. Marriage and the family are still strong in China—but children clearly lie in a different asset class.
custody：监管; 拘留，羁押; 抚养权，监护权
[例句]I'm going to go to court to get custody of the children
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